The Boys are the Girls and the Girls are the Boys
I don’t think it’s just the world I live in but there seem to be a lot of people around who have been playing the blame game. You know them when you hear them: “All men are no good—they only want one thing;” “I’ve been married three times to three losers;” “All women are good for is to spend my money;” “Those sweet things at the bar listen to me like my wife never does.”
When clients go through the Sedona Intensive, the biggest hurdle for women is to stop seeing themselves as a wounded bird—a put-upon victim. A lot of femme fatales turn into poor pitiful Pearls or the proverbial damsel in distress. For men, the 1,000 pound gorilla is entitlement—they think they have the right to run around like Free-range chickens, clucking and plucking feathers from hens wherever they may be—bars, beaches or at the gym. The fast track to breaking down these misconceptions is to throw the Book of Life at them—the Law of Attraction. We only bring into our lives people, places and things to mirror our shadow self. God, ain’t that a shame? The solution and resolution to nasty, stinking relationship fiascos is to look inside us to see who our problem is.
There is a brilliant book that addresses the relationship dilemma and it is Dr. John Sanford’s book, The Invisible Partners: How the Male and Female Within Each of Us Affects Our Relationships (Paulist Press, January, 1979) and I suggest you buy it and read it and reread it, underline and memorize what the good psychologist has to say about why relationships don’t work but how they can. He takes the gentler softer path to get us to understand the simple principle that until we have a relationship with ourselves—blend and balance our shadow self—or as he says, invisible partner—we may never be able to have a loving, kind and nurturing love affair or marriage with another human being.
The shadow, when ignored, will make one crazier than a loon. The ignored “animus” (male side) of a woman and the “anima” (female side) of a man will act inappropriately by blaming, shaming, accusing and seeing the other person for what’s wrong with the relationship. The truth be told, if we can integrate our shadow—make our invisible partner visible and real within us—we will begin to draw a healthy man or woman into our lives. Or as I like to say in Gaulden-ese, “You deserve what you get.” To get someone better, change you. Have a relationship with yourself.
An Open Valentine to a Diva—Ashley Tripp Bell
I met Ashley when she was 16. She came to me to have her astrological birth chart read and wouldn’t sit with me unless her mother, Gail was present. I agreed—which is not my character—because the energy of another person can distort the reading. There was no such problem that day. From the first session, I could see that this beautiful precocious young lady was destined to be a big star in the world of music and the game of life.
Ashley graduated in 2002 from the Convent of the Sacred Heart in New York City with a GPA of 4.0, and was Salutatorian and a National Merit Scholar. She graduated magna cum laude, Phi Beta Kappa in May 2006 from Yale with a B.A. in International Studies and Italian. Ashley speaks fluent Italian, advanced French, Spanish, German and is proficient in Latin. Ms. Bell sang the role of Folia in Carissimi’s “Jepthe, 1st Lady in “die Zauberflote and was soprano soloist in Haydn’s “Missa Brevis in F Major” while a student at Yale and performed at the International Institute of Vocal Arts in Chiari and Brescia, Italy 2002 – 2004.
I introduced Ashley last year to one of my new friends, celebrated society fashion designer and one of the nicest women I ever met, Jeane Eddy, who invited Ashley to be a special guest on a radio show she hosts, WMNR Fine Arts Radio in Monroe, Connecticut. Because the radio interview and Ashley’s singing were so breathtaking, I decided to share it with you.
Please hit the button below to listen to that interview and hear one of the world’s future opera divas sing—Ashley Tripp Bell, who is an accomplished lyric coloratura.
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Besides everything coming up daffodils, roses, daisies, wisteria and every other bloom and bush you can name, the celestial shift for the Taurus cycle is that Saturn goes direct on April 20th at 18 degrees of Leo. Retrograde planets—and Jupiter and Pluto are both still retrograde in the sign of Sagittarius—generally mean that the power to create and destroy, depending on the particular planet’s cosmic assignment—is diminished during the retrograde cycle. When the uninformed who don’t like the oftentimes tough lessons Saturn brings whine and complain I tell them that it is best to learn and move on from what Saturn is trying to tell you. The hardest lesson to teach those of you who know a teeny bit about astrology is that we all have all the planets somewhere in our birth chart—so we ain’t getting away from Saturn no matter retrograde or direct in motion.
On the upside for all signs is April 20th when there will be so much activity that you won’t know how to act. What a powerful way to enter the Taurus times. You’ll say in more ways that one: Thank God it’s Friday!
For lunations this month, there is a Full Moon at 1 degree of Scorpio on May 2nd, which will affect more significantly and harshly those of you born April 20 – 25, July 23 – 28, October 23 – 28 and January 19 – 23. More favorably blessed will be those born between February 18 – 23 and June 20 – 25. Full Moons portend endings.
There is a New Moon at 25 degrees of Taurus on May 16th and will most favorably shine on those born May 12 – 20; August 14 – 22; January 11 – 19, as well as latter degrees of the water signs, Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces.
Venus rules Taurus, so it is good to know that the signs most benefited by Venus are Gemini and Cancer as Venus will be in those signs this planetary cycle. Spend cautiously as Venus will go retrograde July 28th when the favors of love and money will be diminished until September 8th. |
